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Wednesday, July 06, 2005

Mars Vs Venus

[read this thru completely, so that you will be eligible for the final voting...., otherwise your vote will be rejected!!! :-) :-)]

Eventhough this imaginery signboard is hilarious, it made to me think for a while... It looked like an age-old cartoon, not suitable for today's trend.

@ Are the males so careless & inefficient, in odd jobs?
@ Do the Women work around all the time, efficiently?
@ Aren't both the genders diversified into all the professsions?
Nowadays, males & females get equal opportunities to excel everywhere.. atleast, the trend is improving and encouraging, if not fully followed. Leave apart certain parts of the world, where dominance or stamping is still existing. I mean the stamping like "this is what you are supposed to do -- this is what I will do"
Let us get into my introspection!!! I identified 4 different set of people.
Equal Opportunity
Most of the MNCs have become Equal-Opportunity employers, whereby both the genders get equal preferences. The opposite genders have started coming up in the male dominant industries like Designing, Engineering,Aeronautics, Movies etc., and the female dominant areas like Cooking, Housekeeping & Pleasure-industry (Trying to find a better word for this "---" industry). But immediate industry dominance by the opposite gender is not going to happen quickly.
Naive giving in
There is one section where one gender gives in completely to the other gender's dominance. They always feel that the opposite gender is better than them. It happens at my home itself. I always give up cooking, since my wife does better than me. (doesn't mean that I cook badly!!). The same way she gives up some areas in the family management. No interest in taking up additional responsibilities.

I have come across another set of people, who always like to excel in whatever they do. Whether making some tasty 'sambhar', changing diapers (I was an expert here), cleaning vessels (bachelors know better).. where males generally score poor marks. You have a new generation of females who excel in all the fields they enter. Like this girl...
Dominance Plays
There is another horrible section of people (particularly males) who categorically deny chances for females to swap the jobs - I mean male chauvinists, who think females are supposed to do only house chores and they are born for that. Eventhough, these kind of thoughts are coming down in developed countries, they are still prevalent in several parts of Indian and Chinese communities. It may take a long time to amend these people's mind.

Since the above cartoon was on a male,
Female bloggers - What do/did you expect out of the opposite gender?
My Gender bloggers - How do you want to present yourself?
Now the voting.....starts.

Candidate.1 - Who gives equal opportunities to females to show their skills.
Candidate.2 - Who is naive and doesn't do anything - because he accepts that the opposite gender is better than him.
Candidate.3 - Who does everything as 'sakala kala vallavan' (like 'all-in-all' alaguraj) without leaving a chance for the opposite gender to excel.
Candidate.4 - Who dictates that, "this what a female is supposed to do" (I believe no body will vote for him, since there is a open ballot box!!!)
I believe candidate no.1 will do better and candidate no.4 will be the loser!! Want to Bet????
Did I diversify too much from the start to the end? Or has it become one sided?
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Anonymous GP said...

Thought-provoking post, Ram.. I firmly believe that both can do what the opposite sex do. So, I am candidate 1.

But, there is the thin line b/w self-confidence and proudness which sometimes irritates. Mars or Venus cant accept wholeheartedly that the other planet did a very good or better than the one that planet is used to doing for long time. e.g., suppose mars prepares lunch when venus is out/sick/resting, for a change.. (it happens!!). Venus would find difficult to accept that the food is good, though Mars can feel it. It is not that Mars jumped into cooking out of nowhere.. Mars has got some exp. somewhere sometime. But, do your venuses accept it? Does aVvenus have any complaint like this against Mars?

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 4:35:00 PM  
Blogger Ram.C said...


I had experienced the cooking part, which you had explained in the 2nd para. At the same time, they also have some reservations - particularly my wife, if I pinpoint some errors in areas of my strength... It happens!!!

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 6:13:00 PM  
Blogger ada-paavi!!!! said...

nalla post, neengal oru hornets nesta kalarivittungal, pakkalam,interesting to observe from the sidelines,
no 1 ku than en vote

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 6:43:00 PM  
Anonymous b a l a j i said...

my vote is for candidate 1.

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 9:27:00 PM  
Blogger Kaps said...

Engal Vottu Candidate 1 kku thaan.

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 10:07:00 PM  
Blogger ada-paavi!!!! said...

ever considered a career change as a public opinion specialist or in that field ram? nalla creer, interesting jokers like lalu ellam meet panallam,

Wednesday, July 06, 2005 11:55:00 PM  
Blogger Ram.C said...


'lalu'vukku advise panna naan pooi maatikkanumaa enna? athellam oru chinna circlela thaan edupadum!! periya allavula vara innum konja naal aagalam!!! but, yaaravathu maatuvangkala?

Thursday, July 07, 2005 12:09:00 AM  
Blogger Prabu Karthik said...

nalla post.

hornets nesta illa pandora's box a nu inime dhaan theriyum

engal vote irattai ilaike.. illai illai... yaaru biriyani kudupangalo avangalukke...

ok. equal opportunity gets my vote.

Thursday, July 07, 2005 12:10:00 AM  
Blogger sophie said...

nice read out...candidate 1..my choice

Thursday, July 07, 2005 2:42:00 AM  
Blogger ada-paavi!!!! said...

PK, indian electinla quarter,namba blogworld elections illa biryania?? yeangyavathu lanjam vangalmal vote odungapa, illati nan anniyana vara sollividuven!!

Thursday, July 07, 2005 6:39:00 AM  
Blogger Munimma said...

It is a mixed bag. Ideally speaking, candidate 1 should be it. But in practice, there is a lot of grey fuzz. First, why worry about equality and make it a big issue? Lot of people may not get what I am trying to say. In certain jobs, what difference does it make who does it? So equality is no longer an issue or a question there.

Reality, men are higher paid doing the same job at the same efficiency level. This is a fact everywhere inspite of the talk about equality.

Certain things, only one gender can do. Men cannot handle emotional loads. They break up. Women thrive in it. Men cannot handle the weird ups and downs attributed to pregnancy or even PMS :-) They will go raving mad.
Men, because they are not as emotional, do better in analytical jobs.

Bottom line, the differences help in some ways, shouldn't be a criteria in other cases and should be eliminated in the rest of the cases. I rest my case :-)

Sorry for taking up so much space.

Thursday, July 07, 2005 8:21:00 AM  
Blogger AF said...

Nice one I vote of candidate 1. But though as Munimma says, women cannot do everything. Its a mixture of both candidate 1 and 2.

Thursday, July 07, 2005 12:45:00 PM  
Blogger Ram.C said...

I knew thatthe ideal winner would be Candidate no.1, without even fulfilling Prabhukarthik's biriyani request.

But as Munimma, has mentioned life is a mixed bag. Practically we may end up with No.2. That's the reality, most of us face always.

Thursday, July 07, 2005 3:36:00 PM  
Blogger JaganLee said...

Share the work. do what u r good at, leave the rest to ur partner.
So my vote goes to 1

Friday, July 08, 2005 9:20:00 AM  
Blogger Arvind said...

let us face it. There are gonna be fan following for all groups. Not sure how many people will turn up for Candidate 4 though ;).

candidate 1 is what every man would like to 'potray' himself and pray that he can enjoy life as candidate 4. But the reality is somewhere in-between. The 'typical' man, if at all, there is any, would be a mix of 20% of 1, 25% of 2, 5% of 3 and 50% of 4.


Sunday, July 10, 2005 4:06:00 PM  

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