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Thursday, October 13, 2005

Handle with Care - Glamoured Relationships

Blogfire is spreading everywhere.. so bloggers might not have had time to concentrate on certin issues like this broken relationship.

Of late, the trend in the marital relationship & pre-marital relationships are going sour in the film indsutry too often. Reasons are the common ones, which instigate the separation generally. However, due to the glamour associated to the industry they are normally getting blown up in a big way.

First is the Gossiping media business. Even, if people are just friends, the media network start writing about them in other words. Sometimes these kind of rumours make those persons involved to consider a relationship as rumoured and try to fall in the trap. But these sort of forced relationships don't last for a long time. These rumoured relationships fizzle out once the market is down, for one of the person involved. Classic example was Srikanth-Sneha case.

Let us assume that they pass off the gossiping corner and are really inclined to continue with the relationship. The next hurlde which they face is 'Expectation'. Do they realise what they expect? Sometimes, no.... Reality strikes once the glamour which was keeping them afloat fades away. Too much of devotion to the work, which was ignored before their relationship may be considered as a villain subsequently. In certain cases, the revenue starts dripping down or monetary pressure piles up, due to some bad moves (movies).. Many people fail in these tests & wake up suddenly to the reality. 'Let us cut it off' happens...

Ego may be one of the additional keys forcing a breakup. In this industry, there are lots of possibilities for people being driven to the corner due to this reason.

Atleast, if these breakups happen before marriage as in Selva-Sonia's case, the wound inflicted may heal off soon. Sometimes, the darling couples of the industry take decisions after leading an enviable life with kids.. for reasons known to them. I can name a few high profile couples who had broken up, like Sulakshana-Gopikrishna (MSV's son), Seetha-Parthiban, Nalini-Ramarajan, Sarika-Kamal, Rohini-Raghuvaran, Priya Raman-Ranjith... [If you notice, several of those affected ladies are in front of the cameras again, even if it is small screen].

Doesn't mean that all the glamoured relationships fail. You may observe certain ships sailing smoothly.. like Saranya-Ponvannan, Poornima-Bhagyaraj, Jayaram-Parvathi, Rajasekar-Jeevitha, Mukesh-Saritha, Maniratnam-Suhashini etc.,

We may not know the reasons behind this new development between Selva & Sonia. However, I felt that it was good for Selva & Sonia to split now, eventhough they were on the headlines when she accompanied the bride (Selva's sister) along with Aishwarya Dhanush. Personally, it looked odd for me at that time itself. Anyhow, better to face the reality now, rather than after having family life & kids.
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19 Comments:

Blogger Rags said...

Dude I hope you mean "Marital" and not "Martial"

EGO, Thats one thing which we cannot live with or without... Need to strike a balance.

Thursday, October 13, 2005 6:59:00 PM  
Blogger vee-jay said...

At least now, will Selvaraghavan make movies without Sonia???

Thursday, October 13, 2005 7:00:00 PM  
Blogger Ram.C said...

Rags.. yes, u r right. thankzzzz..sometimes the presence of that 'i' in a wrong place, proved correct in some people's life... a miserable ones. Agree with you on balancing of that 'Ego' part...

VJ.. honestly speaking, I was not convinced with her artificial smiling or laughing in most of her movies. So, Selva need not work hard in future to mould her in a better way.. Who knows? He may still retain her for his future movies, as a true professional...

Thursday, October 13, 2005 7:08:00 PM  
Blogger thennavan said...

Excellent analysis with facts, once again. I am thinking this "splitsville" thing is an overall trend today, be it celebrities or otherwise since one important quality that people need to possess - PATIENCE is lacking among both men and women these days. Samudhaayaththin saabakkedaa illai seerkedaa? :-)

Thursday, October 13, 2005 9:06:00 PM  
Blogger Narayanan Venkitu said...

I always felt that there was a certain sense of sadness in Sonia's face. I think I commented in one of your posts about this as well.!!

I wish both of them the very best in life. Both are talented.!

Thursday, October 13, 2005 11:34:00 PM  
Blogger Raju said...

Very good analysis, as usual. The people working in the same industry tend to fall in love and get married with the hope that they would have a better understanding over each other.. Alas, doesnt always work out that way as you pointed out with numerous examples. I didnt know about Ranjith-Priya break-up....

BTW, no news on the hot jodi Surya-Jo?

Friday, October 14, 2005 12:55:00 AM  
Blogger Chakra Sampath said...

Well analysed.

As Narayanan says, Sonia's eyes will always have a tinge of sadness.. think that point has also been discussed by the media threadbare..

Friday, October 14, 2005 1:35:00 AM  
Blogger Ram.C said...

Thennavan.. I agree that this is an overall trend which is happening everywhere. And it is more visible in Indian celebrities arena, nowadays.

I won't say that it is a curse on our society.. the values and culture have changed to accomodate more of a westernised free thoughts. We may end up seeing more like this in future, when difference of opinion arises. (eventhough 'adjustment with life-partner' is still preached / advised by elders to those who are in these type of problems)

Friday, October 14, 2005 2:30:00 AM  
Blogger Ram.C said...

Mr.Narayanan / Chakra.. I agree.. we can observe visible pain in her eyes always.. even if she attempts to smile.

Raju.. It is too early to judge anything on Surya-Jo. It seems, Sivakumar is against this proposal of getting married to another cine field personality.. Need to see if anything really happens. And regardg, that Priya Raman-Ranjith episode, I remember reading it some time back.

Friday, October 14, 2005 2:34:00 AM  
Blogger caleb said...

hey! great post as usual...i didnt realise they split, if they were ever a pair. i guess we can assume they were. i'm more interested in where selva goes from here and maybe sonia's departure could mean a new selva? i dont know. we'll have to see.

cheers!

Friday, October 14, 2005 9:38:00 AM  
Blogger Ramana Siddharth said...

hi ram..sad 2 hear the news of talaivar breaking up with sonia..he has had a sad romantic life even previously and i am sure he is heart broken..dont know if this is true..hope both of them patch up.

selva nammam valga!!

Friday, October 14, 2005 10:10:00 AM  
Blogger IBH said...

couples in cine field are never meant to be together...i know it is a very generic statement..but look at Parthiban and Seetha...i thot they wuld serve to be the ideal couple..with the way they got married..and now the state of their relationship! man,i guess i wuld go with Shivakumar on Surya and Jo's relationship...
it is tough to maintain a high profile relationship owing to lot of other reasons apart from one main reason that they are always under media glare...

but whatever said and done any relaitonship with a mix of any type of profession is tough to sustain unless and until compromise,respect and above all LOVE exists underneath all!

Friday, October 14, 2005 12:32:00 PM  
Blogger Ram.C said...

Caleb...his previous movies also had different flavours. Hope he surpass those flavours as well, in his future creations. Let us hope for the good....

Siddharth... I know you will be sad, being the Tamilnadu Unit Rasigar mandra thalavar of Selva Club. Hope he settles with a suitable girl understanding his attitude.... in future.

IBH... Yes, I didn't even think to that extent of Parthipan-Seetha breakup. They even adapted a boy, after two girls of their own. It is unfortunate that it happened so for them... As you had mentioned, whatever be the profesion, there needs to be a mutual adjustment factor between the couples to get the life going... If it doesn't, we may see these kind of breakups often.

Friday, October 14, 2005 5:01:00 PM  
Blogger Ganesh said...

who cares

Its their own business

my 2 cents

sorry

Friday, October 14, 2005 5:58:00 PM  
Blogger ada-paavi!!!! said...

nariya gossip colums padipenga pola irukku?? avanga sonda vishyam namakku edukku?

Friday, October 14, 2005 6:29:00 PM  
Blogger Slice Of Life said...

i think the reasons for all marriages to break up remains the same ...we read abt celebritities bcos there is glamour abt it..
.why do u seem to be happy with thir break up? ha ha

uma
uma

Friday, October 14, 2005 10:33:00 PM  
Blogger Ram.C said...

Ganesh.. for me too, it is not a matter of worry.. But thought of blogging on these broken relationships in the industry for sometime and since this event happened this week, summarised my view points.. thats it...

Vatsan... I don't read too much of G columns... just about those personalities who are glaring under the limelight...

Uma.. Honestly, I didn't express my happiness explicitly.. just expressed my personalised opinion that it is better early than later after certain bond has been created.

Saturday, October 15, 2005 12:43:00 AM  
Blogger tt_giant said...

Nice analysis. But I don't care much about their personal life. As long as they are dedicated to their primary work, it is fine.

Saturday, October 15, 2005 12:15:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

sailing smoothly? saritha mukesh...??? look at the irony. they r divorced now!

Thursday, July 04, 2013 11:03:00 PM  

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