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Thursday, October 27, 2005

Understanding A..B.. concept

While having a causal chat, my Colleague was talking about his friend, both of whom entered the industry at the same time. It seems his friend had gone up in IBM ladder now and currently in the interview panel. Just because he moved to Singapore, my colleague believes that he couldn't see the growth blah blah....

I couldn't blame him for his attitude. He is one among the many people who complain about the reverse of fortunes inspite of their abilities. I had seen different people with different perceptions from time to time. For simplicity, let us consider those who feel left out as 'B' while comparing with another 'A' in the following scenario. You can assume that my colleague is 'B' and his friend is 'A'. [Caution: Don't put me in the position of 'A' or 'B'. It is my General observation among a group of people. Pl. look into this generally]

A & B were collegemates, during which time 'B's intellectual qualities were utilised well by 'A'. After few years, 'B' moved out of the country on an overseas assignment and loses his job motivation due to various reasons. When he returned back, he observed that 'A' is in a Vice-President position of a start-up growing company. 'B' is still wondering whether he made a wrong decision in moving out of India....

A & B were introduced to each other in a party. As usual our 'B' has got several distinctions in a professional course and our 'A' had come to that level after several years of struggle. When 'B' looked into the career path of 'A', he got amazed. The job profile which 'B' is targetting for the last few years, thru hard work and sweat with his distinctive qualities, had fallen into 'A's laps without much efforts. 'B' is still working hard to get a recognition for his quailities...

A & B, being relatives, are constantly compared for their achievements from time to time - at school level / college level / career level etc.,. Those comparision made by their parents, had passed on to them later. Being a Senior person, 'B' didn't expect 'A' to beat him in terms of career achievement & monetary terms. But, that cannot happen always when each person's abilities differ and are rewarded on their own merits. Now 'B' has got settled down with the reality slowly, waiting for his turn to come up...

A & B are no way related. 'B' is much elder, that his son is younger than 'A' by few years. Eventhough 'B' is affluent, he ignored that fact and started wondering as to how 'A' has made so much money at this younger age. The hilarious part is when 'B' got worried about his son (a college student) as to whether he can earn as much as 'A'. They don't consider the fact, that they are already sitting on huge wealth which 'A' cannot earn immediately!!!

'A' is serving in a particular industry and is in a good earning position. If it is in India, that much earnings may not be possible for the same profile.Eventhough 'B' cannot be matched with 'A' in terms of age, 'B' is still wondering about 'A's earning capacity with that profile - which may not fetch so much money in India.

Most of the above cases, boil down to a personal perception of "you lucky" type of feelings. There are two factors which play the major roles in these type of situations.

1) 'Luck' - Definitely, the fortune wheel stops at different places, the timing of which may not be known to the persons involved.
2) 'Efforts' put in by 'A' which 'B' fails to recognise

My perception is that the person who has the feelings of 'Left behind' should put in more efforts and should wait for the 'Lady Luck's smile at him. Eventhough, it may not happen in an easy way for 'B' as it had happened for 'A', the reality has to be faced. Isn't it?
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Blogger Sundar Narayanan said...

so true.. i have been A or B many times in scenarios you describe..

the grass is always greener on the other side..


Thursday, October 27, 2005 9:48:00 PM  
Blogger Narayanan Venkitu said...

Very difficult but if the person who feels left behind puts in effort..he can certainly come up.

I agree in that luck is a part as well. I've gone thru such situtations in life.! It happens all the time.

Bottomline, don't crib, work hard to achieve.! Leave the rest to God.!

Thursday, October 27, 2005 10:48:00 PM  
Blogger Rags said...

I partially agree with you... B's reaction is relative...Many Indian companies feel that sending a person onsite and paying him $ is motivation enough...I am pretty sure that B is one of those guys... It is human to compare ourselves with others. Just that we need to take that as a challenge and work to negate the differentiation.

Thursday, October 27, 2005 11:28:00 PM  
Blogger The Constant Variable said...

Very true...have been A or B or C(you, the observer, hee hee)...so many times...

I have realized past does not always guarantee a future...Just live the present whichever best suits you at that particular instant...

Thursday, October 27, 2005 11:38:00 PM  
Anonymous Raju said...

well said, ram.. Luck favors the bold and deserved. No point in cribbing about it all the time..

Friday, October 28, 2005 2:56:00 AM  
Blogger Ganesh said...

very thoughtful post Ram.
sometimes person having all the qualities for some unknown reason feels left behind, may be they lack the 'X' factor whatever the X is .
or simply put lady luck hasnt smiled on them yet.

Friday, October 28, 2005 7:38:00 AM  
Blogger TJ said...

In a lighter vein, the key to succes was once stated as Luck or Lick

Friday, October 28, 2005 7:31:00 PM  
Blogger thennavan said...

This A-B concept was so good that my mom appreciated it a lot when we were chatting yesterday and I showed her your blog :-)

Friday, October 28, 2005 9:39:00 PM  
Blogger Ram.C said...

Sundar.. welcome to my blog's comments section for the first time. I accept your point.. most of us would have crossed the swords with either A or B accidentally (or intentionally...)

Mr.Narayanan.. the last one was perfectly true. After putting the efforts, we need to leave it to 'Him', for appropriate action!!!

Rags.. true. Human nature is to compare and excel.. The one thing, we need to keep in mind is that it should not spoil our attitude after comparison...

M.A... welcome.. accepting your views. it so happens that our past thoughts are rekindled somehow... by some factors.

Raju.. I don't think Luck favours only the bold and deserved. Luck doesn't show partiality only to those people. 'Luck' is such a global phenomena that anyone can have it.... That's where the gribbing comes in by some 'so-called' deserved people.

Ganesh.. 'X' factor plays a big role, I agree.

TJ.. LOL. Sometimes this even may not work for 'B'.. that's the pity.

Mukund... Uchi kulirnthuduchhu... thanks for sharing your Mom's views.. :-) :-) :-)

Saturday, October 29, 2005 10:27:00 PM  
Blogger Ramana Siddharth said...

very true.it seems 2 be a human disease 2 think that the grass is greener on the other side.we should all try 2 do very well in our career..the best way 2 do that is by trying 2 give our best without constantly feeling that the other guy is doing better than me.

my house got flooded in the rain that hit madras.just got the net back..

Sunday, October 30, 2005 12:37:00 AM  
Blogger Ram.C said...

Siddharth.. hope your house and the neighbourhood had returned to normalcy... take care.

Sunday, October 30, 2005 7:16:00 PM  
Blogger ranganathan said...

'A' is writing well....
Well, 'B' is also writing...
'Only Comments':-)

very similar to the reaction of a dog being hit by a stone:-)

Tuesday, November 01, 2005 3:03:00 AM  
Blogger Ram.C said...

Ranga... LOL.. But I didn't get the last line.. how the dog's reaction related to 'B's reaction?

Wednesday, November 02, 2005 5:35:00 PM  

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