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Tuesday, December 06, 2005


Our family friends were blessed with a baby last week and we went to meet them in the hospital. Their case was a special one to mention.

Eventhough, they have daughters already, they were longing for a boy baby for a long time and this kid has joined their world nearly after 13 years of their marriage. The thrilling part was that they didn't want to scan and get upset, if they had realised it as a girl [the preference of boy, was due to the fact that they have daughters already]. Eventhough the thrill had put the mother under lot of mental stress, they were blessed with a boy baby finally.. Their daughters were also happy to receive a brother.

After coming back home, my wife was talking about one of her friend's experience with scanning.

It seems her friend was taking care of her elder sister, during the pregnancy time. When they went for scanning, they had been advised that it would be a boy. However, when the time arrived, the mother delivered a girl. When her sister (my wife's friend) and her husband were informed about this, it seems they refused to accept the fact that it was a girl. They feared that the hospital authorities might have swapped the babies.

Finally, after seeing the baby, they got convinced and swallowed the fact, it seems (eventhough there were disappointments, since their expectations had failed them).

Both were different sides of the coin, isn't it?
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Blogger thennavan said...

In Crazy Mohan's Ayya Amma Ammamma, towards the end there will be a quarrel as to which child will be born to Kaaththaadi Ramamurthy (who plays Raghupathy in it) and his wife (whose name is Janaki in the play). Kaaththaadi's mom S.N.Parvathy (called "Mangalam" in the drama) will insist it is a boy and his wife will insist it will be a girl, both of them citing their family experiences in this. When the quarrel between the M-in-L and the D-in-L escalates, Kaaththaadi will say "ayyo! adhu aanaa porakkaradho ponnaa porakkaradho, kuzhandaiyaa porandaa sari" :-) (I was reminded of that dialogue on reading this).

Tuesday, December 06, 2005 2:28:00 PM  
Blogger Narayanan Venkitu said...

Yeah, scans during the early pregnancy can be unclear.!! and also the doc. who reads it can commit a human error.!!

Human errors have caused a lot of problems in the Medical field.!!

But I can understand the feelings of the parents.!! What an experience.!

I think these days in India - reputed Hospitals don't reveal the Sex. Is that right?

Tuesday, December 06, 2005 4:30:00 PM  
Blogger Raju said...

Endru thaniyum indha 'Aan pillai' mOgam?

Surprised to hear of such couples even in Singapore..

Tuesday, December 06, 2005 5:20:00 PM  
Blogger Me said...

i think in India scanning is banned....i dont know for sure....mebbe there were talks abt this...

Tuesday, December 06, 2005 6:47:00 PM  
Blogger ada-paavi!!!! said...

scannig na, i am reminded of the subtle ads round india which determine the sex, its banned, but still clinics do such tests, and openly advertise for it....

Tuesday, December 06, 2005 7:01:00 PM  
Anonymous Sundaresan said...

@raju, it didnt seem to be a aan pillai mogum...they wanted a boy as they have daughters, i think.

yup, scanning is banned...but, as you know, sometimes, doc tells that to the patient if they are interested and asked them not to reveal !!!!....

Tuesday, December 06, 2005 7:12:00 PM  
Blogger Shankar said...

I think scanning as such is not banned, but revealing the baby's sex is banned. Because one has to def. undergo scanning to make sure that the baby is growing alright.

These days, this craving for a baby boy has come down very much - thanks to 'Naam Iruvar, Namakku Oruvar' policy!! I have seen many parents taking conscious decision to have just one child. Ha! How boring for that only child!

Tuesday, December 06, 2005 9:02:00 PM  
Blogger vee-jay said...

Determination of the sex of the foetus is now punishable under the law in India. So, one has no choice but to wait till the baby is born to know the sex of the baby. I think both - knowing and not knowing the sex of the baby before the child is born has it adv & disadvantages.

Tuesday, December 06, 2005 11:59:00 PM  
Blogger Ram.C said...

Thennavan.. I am wondering about ur memory power.. I could realise how those dialogues had made you laugh then, that you remember them still...

Mr.Narayanan.. I hv an understanding that in India, the scan sex results are being told to the parents officialy for the first child and not for the later children. I don't think it has been been compeletely.

Raju.. as Sundaresan had mentioned, their wish was like that, since they have daughters already and wanted to have a real mix in the family.. that's it.

ME.. I don't think it has been banned completely. It is still there.

Vatsan.. I knew that in certain parts of North India, it is openly advertised and carried out. We may have to expect the Govt to crack on them.

Sundaresan.. that would be a good joke, when Doc reveals in addtn to instructing the parents not to reveal to outsiders.

Shankar.. that is also an important decision for growth of the lonely child. I feel that the medium sized / well to do families should go for 2 children always.

Wednesday, December 07, 2005 12:04:00 AM  
Blogger Ram.C said...

VJ.. agree with your views. As we all know, in those days, our parents didn't have this facility and still crossed this situation.

Wednesday, December 07, 2005 12:06:00 AM  
Blogger chikuado said...

hmm... yep. Regardless of gender bias, sometimes people don't like expecting one thing and getting something different. :-)

Wednesday, December 07, 2005 4:09:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Frankly, it seems more to me like 'Aan pillai mogum' considering the 'stress' Mrs. X was going through:-) General opinion I gathered from Ram's post. Whatever child you get, as long as it's healthy, I don't see any need for disappointment. But then, that's a personal opinion and I am sure that those raised in India would probably not understand it.

Secondly, if they have daughters(pl), then do we need to add to the pop'n prob? I agree that having just 1 kid can be very lonesome to the child, but Indian people having more than 2 children, and causing problems of over population even outside of India, should be something to think about. Come on, it's not an age where general knowledge and social well-being should be ignored. Maybe I should make this a topic in my blog:-)

But, the info about the scanning problems is pretty interesting.


Wednesday, December 07, 2005 7:21:00 PM  
Blogger Sundar Narayanan said...

while i agree that finding the sex for the wrong reasons is bad, there are some plus sides to knowing if it is a boy or a girl early. for example, i didnt have to buy anything for my first daughter .. got everything in the baby shower they organized at work for me... US is pretty color coded.. pink stuff for girls, blue for boys.. sad, but that is where the Ultrasound helps.


Wednesday, December 07, 2005 11:57:00 PM  

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